I know I’ve said it before, but this month little N and I are going it alone, just the two of us while Mr A is away with work. The few first days have been tricky and the first night was a total disaster, but we’ve surviving. We’ve already ticked five nights off our countdown (only 25 more to go!) and we’ve juggled meal times, housework, play time and even been out for a play date, supermarket dash and walked Poppy every day, sometime twice if we’ve been feeling really active. We’ve slept (a little) and little N is now in a new routine with snacks, meals and bedtime, which seems to be working. Phew.
I’ve definitely had my ups and downs. I hadn’t realised how hard it would be not having another pair of hands to help, especially at meal times. At times I’ve felt totally alone, a reminder of how hard it was when little N first arrived and Mr A went back to work after paternity leave. As we’re a military family we don’t choose where we live, and although I can’t complain, we’re more than two hours away from friends and family ‘back home’. I wish we were closer, to have help walking the dog if we’ve had a bad night, to bring a hot meal round because I’m too exhausted to cook, to help with the housework or ironing, but we’re not that lucky. It’s just me.
Fortunately, it’s not as bleak as it felt when little N was a newborn as we’ve now got a good group of mama and baby friends nearby who I can call on if things get too tough.
Right now I’m feeling positive. We can do this. We’ve made it this far and tonight my Mum will be arrriving (with a few meals to put in the freezer) to help and give me a chance to catch me breath, reset and get ready for the next few nights on our own. But most importantly, she will be here to spend quality time with little N and have a few adventures with us both. Perfect.
Have you got any tips or advice for a mama on her own? Please comment below and let me know!