With little N’s first birthday just around the corner, it’s got me thinking about all of his other ‘firsts’…
The first time he smiled, sat up on his own, rolled over, learnt to crawl and took his first steps. In his short life he’s already achieved so much, and so much faster than we had expected.
But looking back now, there are a few milestone cards we forgot to use – his first tooth, because when do you actually record this? When it cuts through? When it’s a full tooth?
Parenting is always on the go, and despite our good intentions to mark every first step along the way, we’ve often forgotten to use the milestone card and had to be more creative, forgotten to charge the camera and sometimes little N is just too tired or grizzly to sit through a photo shoot so we’ve had to use a little artistic licence a few days later! It was also a lot easier when he wasn’t interested in destroying the card while trying to take the photo!
But, I’ve decided it really doesn’t matter if we forget or if the photo we have is staged at a later date. I was there. I remember the first time he ate solid food, stood up on his own, and the first time he escaped up the stairs! I might not have captured all of his firsts on camera, or recorded the exact date in a baby book, but I didn’t miss it.
I’ve decided that this part of parenting, capturing all the firsts, is just for us, for Mr A and I to look back on when we’re old and dotty. Will little N really want to look back at his first year when he’s 40, married and has his own family with all their firsts to record and cherish? Probably not.
I don’t know the first day I ate solid food, and actually I don’t need to know. I have no idea when I took my first step, I’ve never asked, but I can walk, run, hop and skip now without knowing the exact date I learnt it all, and I’m fine with that.
Don’t get me wrong, I do love the milestone cards that we have, they’re a great idea. But, I’ve realised that it’s not always practical to capture every first, and that’s OK. It’s better to be in the moment than miss it all together.