Little N: the first milestones

With little N’s first birthday just around the corner, it’s got me thinking about all of his other ‘firsts’…

The first time he smiled, sat up on his own, rolled over, learnt to crawl and took his first steps. In his short life he’s already achieved so much, and so much faster than we had expected.

But looking back now, there are a few milestone cards we forgot to use – his first tooth, because when do you actually record this? When it cuts through? When it’s a full tooth?

Parenting is always on the go, and despite our good intentions to mark every first step along the way, we’ve often forgotten to use the milestone card and had to be more creative, forgotten to charge the camera and sometimes little N is just too tired or grizzly to sit through a photo shoot so we’ve had to use a little artistic licence a few days later! It was also a lot easier when he wasn’t interested in destroying the card while trying to take the photo!

But, I’ve decided it really doesn’t matter if we forget or if the photo we have is staged at a later date. I was there. I remember the first time he ate solid food, stood up on his own, and the first time he escaped up the stairs! I might not have captured all of his firsts on camera, or recorded the exact date in a baby book, but I didn’t miss it.

I’ve decided that this part of parenting, capturing all the firsts, is just for us, for Mr A and I to look back on when we’re old and dotty. Will little N really want to look back at his first year when he’s 40, married and has his own family with all their firsts to record and cherish? Probably not.

I don’t know the first day I ate solid food, and actually I don’t need to know. I have no idea when I took my first step, I’ve never asked, but I can walk, run, hop and skip now without knowing the exact date I learnt it all, and I’m fine with that.

Don’t get me wrong, I do love the milestone cards that we have, they’re a great idea. But, I’ve realised that it’s not always practical to capture every first, and that’s OK. It’s better to be in the moment than miss it all together.

H x

13 thoughts on “Little N: the first milestones

  1. Kirsty says:

    I love this post: the milestones are absolutely amazing, but your right, even if we miss capturing them, it doesn’t matter, we were still there and we’ll always remember it because of that. It’s so easy to get caught up on capturing the moment, and forget to actually live in it.

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  2. secret life of silbo parry says:

    I totally agree. We haven’t had milestone cards and my hubby is less than forgetful of having the camera on hand but some stuff is just for parents. I’ve noticed if we have certain pictures up everyone asks for copies of them pictures and it seems to feel a little less special. Obviously your child and the moment is special but it’s not something just for you then. I also had someone tell me that it doesn’t matter if I don’t see things the first time, they will do it other times. That really hurt as I feel like it should be mum or dad not someone else telling you that your child did something. Great post 🙂 xx

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  3. Nadine says:

    Completely agree with this! I also beat myself up about not capturing firsts to begin with. I remember getting really upset because I hadn’t made a note of the date Little One first tried solids in a book we have but the more I thought about it, the more I realised that it really didn’t matter as like you say, we experienced it.

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  4. Georgina says:

    I LOVE this post! When I first had Rory as he was a little early I forgot to get his milestone cards and ended up express ordering them to come in time for him being one week, they arrived on the day and I took the photos. That is the only day I took the photo on the correct day! For his 5 and 6 week photos he is actually 7 weeks and I forgot about the one to document when he had his first smile.

    I felt so much pressure to keep up with these cards and all this guilt but like you say, I don’t have the exact documents and that’s fine. I don’t need to know when I first smiled, I do it all the time now!

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  5. ClaireBearx says:

    I totally agree! You’ll always have the memory your baby did their first things and all of the milestones they reached. I think sometimes we get a bit caught up in trying to capture the moment but if we just remember “I was there, I witnessed it, my baby is growing up” then we will always remember the moments. Such a lovely post though 🙂 its always so emotional and lovely to look back on how much they’ve come along isn’t it? Xx

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